It does not take 2 to argue, only 1. In the maintenance of a relationship that needs to continue for the benefit of shared children, it only takes one parent to derail communication about their child. If sign up to OurChildInfo is not court ordered, the 2nd parent tends to be paralysed by their own control issues.
Since the 2nd parent has a free account, and still avoids it, it is usually because they are frightened. The 2nd parent fears being confronted by their own words. That parent, by non-usage, shows that they want to remain able to deny what they have said in the past. They can’t commit to their own language or ideas. The parent that avoids the free signup has no excuses, especially since every judge, attorney, and family mediator that uses or assigns the site, recognizes it as an exceptional tool.
Communication by text or instant messaging remains viable. However, when there is a defined statement or question that needs permanency, the second parent tries to hide. They want to be able to continue to avoid commitment even when it is about their own child and they lack the ability to commit to their own words. The permanency of a post on OurChildInfo can be a frightening thought. They have a need to have the ability to continue to deflect. If the other parent posts a legitimate question or the request for information, the avoiding parent gets scared of the permanency.
The log file can be saved permanently by either parent at any time. One parent will often show it to the kids when they are older that they tried to communicate, but the other parent refused to communicate about the children. The record that develops is seen by the children, and they then know that one parent (usually the 2nd onw complaining about the free account) was the cause of the avoidance and angst.
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Shortly after our divorce, my ex-wife moved, changed doctors, and would not provide a phone number. Our Child Info has been a great tool to help me keep track of all requests. And now, if she wants to avoid communication, that lack of a response is also tracked. This site has been so helpful in enforcing my basic rights to my son.
- S. Downs
Our Child Info has been very helpful in managing communication with my ex-husband. The final divorce Order said that we were to communicate with one another but it did not explain how to accomplish that. This site provides a simple way to exchange information about our child and has saved me a lot of money since I have been using it.
- M. Rivera
My ex and I do not get along and services encouraging "co-parenting" are useless. This site saves all information provided and questions asked. Since my ex cannot delete or backdate responses or requests, this site has become very helpful for me prove that history.
- H. Casey
Online program helps divorced parents with communication. OCI eliminates confusion, ignored questions, and unpleasant exchanges between parents.
- Cover Story, Sentinel News, July 2017
The site saves a record of everything communicated, eliminating he-said, she-said disputes.
- Illinois Bar Journal August 2018
[OurChildInfo] claim[s] further uniqueness in that a parent can’t delete, back date or alter data and can print out a log file with date and time stamped log file.
- Texas Bar Blog March 2019
This website was a potential solution to a daily problem plaguing my clients going through divorce and custody battles!
- Oklahoma College of Law March 2019